Teachers and lovers

Everyone I meet is a teacher. It is in the relationships we participate in, the dialogue we exchange and the moments we share that bring insights into who we are. We all derive from spirit and will return to spirit, and while here we act out in spirit.  My first serious relationship I think I learned love is not possession. We use the term 'my girlfriend' or 'my boyfriend,' so much that it can easily be confused with a sense of ownership.

 

I believe when I dated SP, it was love. It was young love with all the passion that entails. What changed is that we out grew each other. I left her for London and when I came back, she had changed and so had I.

 

Sometimes people in unhappy relationships will stay in that unhappy relationship because the thought that someone else can be with your lover is too much. We are then denying our spirit, denying our growth and the other person's growth as well.

 

It took time to realize that SP hadn't done anything to me. We changed and so our relationship had to change. I can't say I ever denied changed, but  I can say I was hurt by it. That was the lesson she taught me as well as many others.